- 3 years ago
#55047
When I regress into my little or infant stages I can be extremely sensitive, so the most punishment I can handle without a full-blown silent break down in the corner is usually gentle reprimands. I have genuine anxiety and panic attack problem that I'm trying to work out so just subtle signs of disappointment usually get the message across loud and clear. I tried the standing in the corner concept before, but it hadn't gone well for me. I'd been left in the livingroom while my big went out into the kitchen to do something and I'd had a panic attack while he was gone and it had taken me days to get over it. It wasn't like I was blaming him for it, I know better than that, but I unintentionally put myself in a position that I thought I could handle but by the time either of us figured out that I'd made a mistake, I couldn't even get my safe word out I just had a full blown attack and I inadvertently scared the life out of him, he had no idea what had happened or what was going on. I'd try building up the punishments gradually and starting out with very calm and subtle approaches before I jump to anything that could be considered an actual 'punishment' Just to make sure you're in your comfort zone and being safe. I knew that nothing dangerous was gonna happen just standing in the corner, but my triggers are oftentimes so irrational and out of the blue that I'm a very difficult little to deal with. But I'd just start small and work my way up so that you don't end up in a situation that you're not ready for. just subtle discomforts, like telling you that you can't colour but you can play with your toys, then slowly build from there.