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#52910
Let's talk about our personal self discovery within the community!

When did you start thinking that you might naturally be more of a parental sort of person, overall?
Was there something that solidified your speculation and you had a massive, "Ah-hah!" moment?
Did someone introduce you to it?
Did you find information online that fueled your discovery?
How old were you at the time?
Have you somehow have always known?
Has it taken you time to better understand and accept yourself?
#52940
It started this year (I'm 23) with my girlfriend. We roleplay a lot, writing about fictional characters from movies and books. Mostly romance but we did some family AUs and I would take the role of a parent, she would be a child. And she started calling me Daddy, just for fun, then I started to read more about littlespace and all of that... I've always felt like I was kinda big sister to her, she's 3 years younger than me. I love calling her my Little, praising her for all things she does and so on, it comes so... naturally to me.
#54104
When did you start thinking that you might naturally be more of a parental sort of person, overall?
- I have sort of always gravitated to the role, initially it was just a dealership thing, then I became squad dad, then I became Daddy to a very special princess who opened my eyes to the lifestyle.

Was there something that solidified your speculation and you had a massive, "Ah-hah!" moment?
-I realized that with anything else I tried to do as just a kink, its was always awkward to do the before and after parts, even if I got enjoyment out of the act itself wheras being a daddy, I fell into the role seamlessly and once I was in, just stayed that way and never looked back and it immediately became more than a kink, but a way of being for myself and my partner that made us both happy, empowered and comfortable.

Did someone introduce you to it?
-My very first little, we met and got to know each other without any mention of the lifestyle, she sort of eased me into it without putting up any "THIS IS A THING" signs to set off my taboo alarms.

Did you find information online that fueled your discovery?
- I have since become an active poster on several boards and a vocal advocate for the benefits of the lifestyle.

How old were you at the time?
- 31

Have you somehow have always known?
- I have always been a weird sort of dominant, too strict for some partners and too soft for the restraints types, I've always been a daddy, I just either didnt realise, or I hid from it.


Has it taken you time to better understand and accept yourself?
- I'm learning more every day, I just had my little leave me after having been unfaithful, so while I fall apart, I am learning how my new me deals with trauma and loss and believe it or not, having released that small long-caged part of me, even if only for a while, has had a ripple effect on every part of my being and has allowed me to ride out the sadness instead of going under.
#54962
I love this question as it strikes at the very heart of origins. i have yet to meet two people who had the same starting points and experiences.

When did you start thinking that you might naturally be more of a parental sort of person, overall?
I was in 3rd grade. A new student entered our class on my birthday in march of that year. She was extremely shy and withdrawn. I got to know her and got her to open up a little bit. Her shyness came from her family constantly moving. (She was in 3rd grade and this was her sixth school!) So she never invested herself in getting to know anyone. But she was also shy because she was incontinent and wore a diaper. She explained it was a muscle deformity that prevented her from being able to hold it.

The reason why meeting this girl in 3rd grade and befriending her was a first indication that I might have a parental nature was because her diaper-wearing condition was found out by our classmates. And she was mercilessly picked on. I defended her, with fists some times. And I got in trouble because of this several times that spring. But nobody picked on her after that, at least not when I was there.

Was there something that solidified your speculation and you had a massive, "Ah-hah!" moment?
I didn't understand that it was a parental nature, or what I like to call a "Daddy-tude" until I was in college and made the discovery of ABDL online.

When I found ABDL online, the "Ah-hah" moments were instantaneous.

Did someone introduce you to it?
No. But I think I pursued knowledge of it because I never forgot about that girl in 3rd grade or the feelings I developed because of meeting her and protecting her.

So when the internet came to be, I began looking up answers for it and that's how I found ABDL.


Did you find information online that fueled your discovery?
Oh yes. Oh my goodness, yes! The first thing I discovered was a message board entitled: Adult Baby BBS. That was the first time I saw those two words together ... Adult Baby.

I would find the few community sites that existed at the time as well as the few pictures sites that existed at the time.

How old were you at the time?
22.


Have you somehow have always known?
No. I truly believe it dawned on me in 3rd grade when I met that girl.


Has it taken you time to better understand and accept yourself?
It was never a struggle to accept it about myself. But there was one adjustment I needed to make. I was with my last vanilla girlfriend when I was 25. We ended and I didn't see anyone for 7 years after that. The adjustment I made was to accept that the only relationship I was right for was one that embraced the Daddy/BabyGirl dynamic.
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