- 3 weeks ago
#60521
Hello, I am new to this topic, and my girlfriend is a little. She's directed me to a Daddy/Dominant role in her life and has tried to give me tips about what she wants from me. I'm new to this and it doesn't come naturally to me, but it is fun and I'm coming along. She tells me she wants me to control aspects of her life (mostly physically intimate) by giving explicit directions to her. She is uncomfortable with receiving pleasure, but desperately wants to give it. She wants me to discipline her when she doesn't comply with my orders.
I guess my uncertainty is around where the boundary is. She doesn't like to break "character" and doesn't like to walk me through exactly what to do. I just don't want to overstep and make her do something uncomfortable to her but she does it anyway because of the power dynamic.
Does anyone have suggestions about what to do, safe things to try. We're both older (40s) if that makes a difference. Right now all we've done is I bought her candy she likes and she's rewarded when she is good. She's been paddled a few times when she refuses an order, which she loves.
I guess my uncertainty is around where the boundary is. She doesn't like to break "character" and doesn't like to walk me through exactly what to do. I just don't want to overstep and make her do something uncomfortable to her but she does it anyway because of the power dynamic.
Does anyone have suggestions about what to do, safe things to try. We're both older (40s) if that makes a difference. Right now all we've done is I bought her candy she likes and she's rewarded when she is good. She's been paddled a few times when she refuses an order, which she loves.