- 1 month ago #56592
Hi! So, my husband (21) and I (21) have been in a DD/LG relationship for a few years now. Since we've had our daughter, I've felt very guilty about being a little. She's only 10 1/2 months rn and absolutely amazing. As she's been getting older my Daddy and I have noticed that I've been more closed off when it comes to that aspect of our relationship. He says that there's no reason for me to feel guilty or weird about it, but I don't know what to do. I'm so worried that I'm gonna end up being upset when she's older just for her being herself and in a way jealous that she gets to be herself all the time (in public, around family, etc.) And I don't wanna risk ever making her feel bad or anything like that. But any time I can feel myself slipping into LS I just feel guilty cause I'm like "I'm supposed to be the adult, I shouldn't be like this" and just shut down. I don't know what to do cause I don't wanna stop being myself and I know it's been making my Daddy feel sad. But I just don't know. On top of that, I come from a family of old school southerners so either they call their dad Daddy or their kids call their father that which obviously is absolutely fine. But since, we found out I was pregnant my Daddy and I decided we wanted her to call us Mama and Papa. But anytime I tell my family that's what we're being called or I call him Papa, a lot of em instantly question me about it and when they're talking about the baby the refer to my husband as Daddy, even though I've made it clear that he wants to be Papa to her. It makes me angry and feel guilty all over again because I feel like I've taken something away from her. I feel selfish. I don't know what to do. Any advice would be greatly appreciated! Thank you so much!