[swainssnuggy]

My caregiver threatens to punish me if I do something against the rules but he never actually follows through. Like ever. And it's actually making me sad. I've broken so many of his rules. everyday.

He's not new to being a caregiver and is caregiver to someone else too.

[Motherly]

It sounds like you two need to talk about your actual expectations and what you truly want to happen. Make a plan of action together. Don’t expect them to be a perfect mind reader.

This sounds like it most likely stems from a misunderstanding or a misalignment of desires than anything else. It could stem from generic rules that neither of you are truly taking seriously as actual rules. Maybe it’s a LDR, in which case RP punishment is mostly pointless anyway and can be difficult to truly figure out how to follow-through with as a person actually punishing another person.

You’ll just have to talk about it, ask why there are only threats, and work together to find what best suits you both out of the relationship.

He's not new to being a caregiver and is caregiver to someone else too.

This is irrelevant. Caregiving has nothing to do with punishing others. Many Caregivers do not punish. Focus on what you’re building together and how you two are growing both together and as individuals. Communicate about the relationship you’re actively in and how to strengthen it. Try to avoid comparing your partner or relationship to others, and try to enjoy what you do have rather than what you don’t.

[swainssnuggy]

Things just ended between us. Everything. It actually feels like a relief