Hey, so I like a bit of dominance in my daddies too. I like to be little when I'm little and I don't like to be pulled out of that mindset while I'm in one of my roles. But when I'm outside of that little space, I do enjoy certain kinks like being pinned down or just subtle things like having their hand on the back of my neck. But I don't see why anyone in the community should be treating you any differently for it. If you're strictly little when you're in little space, first of all there's nothing wrong with that, but I don't see how that make you different from most other littles, or at least how I see it is like this, It's like you step into the scene and that's it... You're you, you're little, end of story. I see it as anything you do, any dom/sub activities that you're into are your business and that no one has any right to judge or try to shame you for it. I believe that so long as it's consentual, safe and no one is getting hurt, then you do you. I can understand being an unconcenting witness to certain things, I know that there is a lot to BeDeeSeM that can make people VERY uncomfortable especially when they DON'T understand what is going on. It'd be like randomly walking into a board meeting at work and suddenly finding some of your co workers in some rather compromising positions right in the middle of it. If you're not expecting that and don't wish to be party to it, I can see wanting to draw some boundaries there. Liek maybe asking to keep things pg in the workplace which I find is usually a rule in most workplaces anyways, but you see my point. I can see maybe laying a few ground rules, keeping things pg in the playroom. If you'll agree to it then I don't see there being anything more to the discussion, what you do in the bedroom is your business, and especially in a community like this there is a definite need for members to be a little more open minded than most. I can't say for certain what kind of little you are, in fact I've been struggling to identify what type of little I am as well. But I'm more of a mixed basket of things so it's a little more complicated, but as long as you're happy with your lifestyle I don't see why you should change it. I can only suggest maybe a change of group or venue to one that's a little more open minded, or just reassuring them that you don't like to cross wires while you're in your little role. I don't really have a problem if my care giver wants to be a little more dominant while I'm still being little, I find that I really don't mind mixing it up from time to time, but it's more 6 times out of ten I'd just like to be left in the little space that I'm in. So I'm open to more of the dominance aspect in my play, but it doesn't completely define me ore my relationships either. In certain venues and groups I can get with some PDA for sure, but I don't know the protocol for this, but I just like to make sure that the people I'm hanging around with are okay with it too, even if it's not their kink, but so long as I'm not accidentally giving someone an eyeful of something they really weren't expecting to see. So no I don't go to the grocery store and crawl around half naked or in a diaper, but I will wear a super hero t-shirt and have my hair up in pigtails and call my partner 'daddy' or something of the like. Keep in mind though, either maybe I don't look my age, paired with the fact I like older partners, or people just don't care but I've rarely been questioned on my behaviour in public and I've actually never??? really had a problem, the occasional comment from someone that I actually know, but wasn't on good terms with to begin with so I could care less. But generally the only reaction I get is a few amused glances my way when I'm chasing my partner down and aisle with a stuffie and saying "daddy please! it's sooo fluffy!!!" But you never really know, I just try to read the room and keep it within reason and no one seems to have much problem with it. But I also don't put up with blatent discrimination or abuse so I'm not about to back down and I can be VERY resourceful and blantently overprotective too. So if I catch any of that crap happening while I'm out, I'll make sure they know better for next time, cause while I may be shy around my cg's I certainly have no issue standing up, getting LOUD AND making a scene of things when I know someone is very clearly in the wrong of it. You be you, keep safe, and don't let anyone put you down for just being you