- 3 years ago
#54969
So I was wondering, I'm a little so maybe it's none of my business and it's really okay if it isn't just let me know if that's the case. But I've always been on the little side of things, and I know the appeal of being little, incase bigs have the same question, you know, going vise versa. My response is that as a little the appeal that I feel for being a little is that I can release all responsibilities and just be little. It's not my problem what's happening on the news or what you're saying to other bigs in the room, I don't have to worry about when is dinner or what to cook or anything, cause when I'm in little space, those worldly issues are the caretaker's job. So I just get to have fun and essentially be pampered, loved, cared for and coddled.
But here's the question,
What do Bigs/Caregivers feel they get out of taking care of 'us' (littles/middles/teens/furs) I mean, I understand the Big's role, but I don't understand the Big's mindset. I kinda have a general idea that you like seeing us happy and we like seeing you happy by doing things you'd approve of. But is giving that approval what makes you happy? Or taking care of us? Or watching over us? I mean I don't really understand... *shrugs* *confused*
KEEP IN MIND I'M NOT JUDGING!! (It's difficult to really give you the right feeling in a post as opposed to being in person and I can really express my feelings, but I'm HONESTLY really curious. I want to know what makes the other side of the coin happy. I mean it's give and take right? But it goes both ways doesn't it? I just, I personally just feel selfish because I'm get all this love and attention and care by just being one of my little me's and I don't know what I'm offering n return. I mean, I return the feelings, and I try to make the other person happy and proud too, but is that real enough considering all you Cargivers do for me??? I really want to know, because I feel like I'm really not pulling my weight a lot of the time and I feel guilty for it, and I don't understand what I can do better unless I actively leave my little space. So if you have an answer or an opinion, or both, I'd be really happy to know.
But here's the question,
What do Bigs/Caregivers feel they get out of taking care of 'us' (littles/middles/teens/furs) I mean, I understand the Big's role, but I don't understand the Big's mindset. I kinda have a general idea that you like seeing us happy and we like seeing you happy by doing things you'd approve of. But is giving that approval what makes you happy? Or taking care of us? Or watching over us? I mean I don't really understand... *shrugs* *confused*
KEEP IN MIND I'M NOT JUDGING!! (It's difficult to really give you the right feeling in a post as opposed to being in person and I can really express my feelings, but I'm HONESTLY really curious. I want to know what makes the other side of the coin happy. I mean it's give and take right? But it goes both ways doesn't it? I just, I personally just feel selfish because I'm get all this love and attention and care by just being one of my little me's and I don't know what I'm offering n return. I mean, I return the feelings, and I try to make the other person happy and proud too, but is that real enough considering all you Cargivers do for me??? I really want to know, because I feel like I'm really not pulling my weight a lot of the time and I feel guilty for it, and I don't understand what I can do better unless I actively leave my little space. So if you have an answer or an opinion, or both, I'd be really happy to know.