Too anxious to let my partner take care of me
Posted: |September 19th, 2020|, 10:25 pm
by Deleted User 62012
I’ve recently come to realize that I might be a little. But I struggle with really bad anxiety and control issues. I like the thought of having my significant other take care of me and do things for me, but my anxiety kicks in and doesn’t want to give them that control over me. We’ve talked about me being a little and that I’m kind of scared to fully sink into it, and they are willing to work with me on it. But this is all still very new to me and I don’t quite know where to go from here. Any advise? Thanks in advance.
Re: Too anxious to let my partner take care of me
Posted: |October 22nd, 2020|, 10:16 am
by Motherly
It sounds like...
- You’ve identified your root problem as being general anxiety.
- You’ve communicated, and continue to do so, with your partner about your desires to regress as well as your anxiety.
- Your partner appears to understand and has communicated their willingness to meet your needs.
- You acknowledge you are newly discovering yourself as a little.
There honestly isn’t much advice to give aside from some basics you may already be aware of or are pursuing:
- Therapy. Anxiety is often irrational and can stem from past things that you may need help mentally overcoming and resolving. A decent therapist can help you figure out your anxiety a little better and work to reduce it from negatively impacting you.
- Patience. You can’t go from 0 to 100 in a second. You have to be patient with yourself and not set heavy expectations that everything must be different immediately. It’s okay to take small steps and just let things naturally occur as they will.
- Community. Becoming involved with the community can possibly help you feel more connected as well as uncover points about yourself you’ve yet to discover. Post more on forums and utilize chat rooms. Have friendly, casual conversations. Ask questions. Share what you do know. Get involved so that you can feel encouraged and like you do belong.
Enjoy your personal journey of self discovery!