- 7 months ago
I feel that people who are strongly against, unaccepting of, or just generally hate the community simply have a poor understanding of what age regression is and how it does not affect them or anyone other than the person who regresses. I don’t believe it’s their conscious fault for being cold toward us, and I don’t believe they are bad. I don’t feel this is a black or white situation where I can give the blanket assumption that you are incompatible, but I feel you do have the power to formulate a better educational plan for this person if you choose for them to be in your life.
People who don’t understand something well are more likely to act aggressively or hostile toward it. It’s an act of human defense and keeps most of us from falling blindly into social dangers, such as cults.
How these things are revealed to another person does matter. It’s important to always inform the person you’re coming out to that you are not asking for their participation or even agreement in your revelation. It’s important to provide them with accessible resources, such as direct links to articles you fully believe are accurate, so that they have the power to learn more outside of your single conversation. It’s important to clarify that regression is not a chosen way to “cope” or a mental disorder that could disrupt your daily life as a fully functioning adult. Using the words such as “mood” and “personality trait” are important because everyone experiences different moods and it’s easy to point out a bubbly personality trait versus others so that there are examples outside of the regression concept. The less foreign and more normal this concept seems will make it easier for the person to accept as existing.
Your partner is likely at least partially attracted to you for some of your quirky, childlike attitudes, moods, and expressions of personality. Personality preferences are strong factors in compatibility. It could have felt jolting to have a label put not only on your non-traditional moods but also your partners attraction in others.
So, I would reason that your partner is not necessarily against your regression but may have a lack of clear understanding of it and may feel that they are being pressured to also participate in this concept that is new to them. They may feel pressured to not only accept a new label on you but also on their attraction, and that new labeling may feel pushed upon them or alienating since it implies it’s unusual.
I would suggest to give your partner space from this concept for some time while preparing for a better conversation that can leave them with the power to learn more when they choose, if they choose. It will also be important to let them know that you are fully functional despite your different moods and that they do not need to consider engaging with you during these moments. You can revisit the conversation after some time has passed and your partner sees there is no pressure for them to act differently with you.
Ultimately, this may come down to agreeing it be an unspoken part of you. I don’t necessarily feel that is a bad thing for all relationships. Sometimes we do not need labels or acknowledgement of our differences. We just need to be and enjoy being.
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