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#35721
Ok so I'm a little and my Daddy has a hard time with the nurturing part of the dynamic. Which upsets me. He only seems to see me in a sensual way. Which is OK sometimes but it seems to be a lot of the time. I have talk to him about this and he says he is trying but it is hard. I feel more like a annoyance when I want cuddles with out extras. What should I do?
#35731
Ok, when you've spoken to him about this, were you in littlespace? Or were you big? I feel this is a conversation that littles definitely need to have in big headspace. You have to very clearly lay out your needs in the relationship. And if all he can respond with is "I'm trying", while not actually changing his behavior, then he may not be right for you and you will need to get out of the relationship.

Has your Daddy really tried researching what is really required in a CG/l relationship? If not, I would recommend he check out some articles that really talk about what goes into being a caregiver.
#35738
Hi little girl and its the generic problem that most of the littles face when they start calling anyone 'Daddy' asap.
Word " Daddy Dom" is simple but it has a lot of meaning with in it. It includes taking responsibility of little's happiness, caring, nurturing, aftercare, making sure she met her schedule and a lot that you can realize being a Little Girl.

So the remedy to this problem is that ask your potential partner BEFORE agreeing for a relation that what he actually meant being called DADDY. What is his definition and what points he highlights. Its totally alright to be sensual, in fact its an integral part of any such relations, but it is not the only thing in relation as well. So discuss to it to your current daddy, put your point across and see if he is able to align it. If not, then suggest him to look for a Master/Slave relation because there being sensual is in master's will anytime, and you try to find your real DADDY DOM :)
#35742
shamank3 wrote: Ok, when you've spoken to him about this, were you in littlespace? Or were you big? I feel this is a conversation that littles definitely need to have in big headspace. You have to very clearly lay out your needs in the relationship. And if all he can respond with is "I'm trying", while not actually changing his behavior, then he may not be right for you and you will need to get out of the relationship.

Has your Daddy really tried researching what is really required in a CG/l relationship? If not, I would recommend he check out some articles that really talk about what goes into being a caregiver.

I was in big headspace. He has been reading more in to everything. We had a big sit down and I told him what I need. I told him that it is OK to be sensual sometimes but it isn't all I want. He understood and apologized. He took a step back to analyze everything and is working really hard to be better.
#54643
It is completely possible that he is not a nonsexual caregiver (i.e. a sexual caregiver). As littles have different needs and styles so too do caregivers. My Sir is a nonsexual caregiver and a sexual Master. While I would enjoy a bit of sexual/sensual CG/l I know that is not His style and respect that. As was mentioned before this may be an incompatibility in relationship needs between the two of you. You can discuss this (in big space), but ultimately if neither can change or compromise without sacrificing too much it may mean its time to end it.
#54655
LittleBunnyGirl13 wrote: 3 years ago Ok so I'm a little and my Daddy has a hard time with the nurturing part of the dynamic. Which upsets me. He only seems to see me in a sensual way. Which is OK sometimes but it seems to be a lot of the time. I have talk to him about this and he says he is trying but it is hard. I feel more like a annoyance when I want cuddles with out extras. What should I do?
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