- 9 months ago #58796
about a month or two ago I stumbled into this relationship with this person where the lines got blurred very quickly and i felt a natural pull to protect and give her whatever she wanted. however now that i’ve taken a step back i only now realize just how dependant on me she is and just how messed up the situation is: she is dropping into little space with no help after stressful situations, she is struggling to come out of the headspace and becoming very disoriented when i attempt to help her come up, right now i’m burnt out and she still pushes me to help her drop everyday, and i’m just not a good caregiver right now no matter what she says. I want to help her but she refuses see just how bad the situation is like she dropped the other week and apparently was small during her normal everyday adult life (doing dangerous things like horse riding which is her hobby) and to hear that she wasn’t able to come up and be big during these things very near sent me into a panic attack. she uses this headspace as an escape from her anxiety but right now she seems to prefer it over her real life and i know that’s a really toxic outlook on the play. please i don’t know what to do.