- 8 months ago
First and foremost, at the core of any CG/L relationship should lay a "regular" relationship. You should establish a baseline of trust and communication before entering any form of dynamic.
Speaking from experience (we've been with our Mommy for over three years; living together for one), having long conversations about life, interests, goals, desires and history is extremely important to get to know another person, and we attribute our success in big part because of how well we meshed in conversation.
A few keys that can clear up misconceptions about a CG/L relationship:
Being a Little is not an excuse to mistreat you or misbehave, nor is it an excuse to not show care when you need it. Being a Caregiver is not an excuse to force your Little into doing activities they aren't comfortable doing without prior consent.
A Little can still show their Caregiver that they care! And being a Caregiver does not mean that all responsibilities fall upon them.
In the end, our maturity has also been a key factor. In the beginning we expected that we would be 24/7 Little and Mommy. But as time went on and circumstances changed, we realized that it was our grownup attributes which lead us to finding a balance just right for us. Mommy encouraged and continues to encourage our growth as individuals, and that has been a big part in preventing stagnation and unhappiness.
It's okay to expect your Little to be as interested in you as a person just as much as they're interested in you being their Caregiver.
CG/L can be quite magical! We absolutely enjoy the bonding tender moments that we have with our Mommy. However, our marriage with our Mommy has shown us enjoyment in other aspects of life. Just sharing space with her, watching movies (both youthful and mature movies), sharing meals, listening to music, and talking about anything feels really nice and happy, too!