A Caregiver or a Mommy is a partner just like anyone else. CGL is a relationship dynamic between two or more people. Relationships take a lot of effort to not only maintain but also to build together. Fulfilling long-term romance takes awhile to find because it is special
Caregivers are not just that one single label. We are each individuals with our own interests and preferences too. There is so much to being seriously romantically compatible with another person, and CGL is absolutely a romance. Any good dating advice applies to partnering up with one of any gender. There is no special voodoo magic to it. If you're not finding success then you should re-evaluate where you are looking, your approach to prospective partners, and your own personal dating skills (Google has a wide variety by typing in something like "best dating tips" and you can pull up YouTube videos of "best dating advice" outright explaining good tips that may be useful for more visual learners
). Try searching for:
- Online dating tips for men
- Successful dating tips for men
- Best dating advice
- How to find a girlfriend
- How to attract a girlfriend
- How to approach a woman
- How to approach a woman on a dating site
- How can a man improve his online dating profile
- Dating profile tips
You may need to work on conversational skills, manners, initial impressions you make, your wardrobe, or any number of important points so I can't really say where you're going wrong necessarily but can point you to general advice to get you started if you take it seriously. You may want to search for:
- How to dress on a first date
- Conversation topics for first date
- First date manners
- First date etiquette
- Dating etiquette
- Dating manners
- First date expectations
- How to get a second date
- How to impress a date
- How to prepare for a date
As a generic tip in online dating, I can tell you that since I am the admin of DateCGL
as well that the community often tends to forget to answer these questions on dating profiles:
- What I have to offer my to-be-partner.
- Why you should contact me.
- How I stand out from the rest of the available littles/caregivers.
- What I want to do to make you happy too.
- What I'm willing to put into our relationship to make sure it's the best for us.
- When I can be available to message, chat, talk, or meet-up with you.
If your question here is really more centered around your gender then I don't particularly believe that male littles are any less desirable than females or any other gender identity. Personally, I'm a Mommy and one of my AB twins is a boy and my middle is cis-male. My twins are typically male-presenting with traditionally thought of as having male anatomy. My partners are not forced to change genders at any point, sissified, or degraded for the bodies they have. I do not secretly wish my partners were anything other than who they are, including their body types. Gender is not nearly as important to me as the ability to communicate well, appreciate me and my efforts, and willingly to make me mutually happy too. Again, dating is much, much more than just someone's gender, just someone's label in one community, just someone's hair color, or just someone's interest in one single subject.
So, keep making personal improvements on yourself and keep searching. You'd rather find someone who takes your relationship seriously than someone who makes a fling of it just because they have one label you like. Just because you find a Mommy doesn't mean you should actually be with that Mommy because, again, compatibility extends far past one label a person has on themselves. A
Mommy is not necessarily your
Mommy. Many people take a decade or more to partner up into something that is worthwhile and lasts. I am 33, have been a part of the community since about 2001, and only just now finding solid relationships. Oh, and, yeah, I'm a cis-female Mommy so that point extends well past adult babies and littles. Most people have to search, struggle, and grow to be able to find someone who makes their heart the happiest it's ever felt.
Also, there is an actual, completely free, CGL based dating site
to explore. I think my advice covers the basic points though.