- 7 years ago
#20626
I read about adult babies when i was 12 and knew it appealed to me but we somewhat creeped out by news casts and documentaries in youtube that i watched and combined with the odd name i didn't like and some backlash from my family, i abandoned it. And so i turned 17, had sex, Turned 18 and then 19 and entered into my first very serious relationship (like engaged and talking about marriage and kids type serious) and we had a lot of problems and i have some emotional scars left over but looking back on that, I picked a dominant male which i liked but he used his dominance for anger and not for love and really that was the root of the issue so I ended it and turned 20, and shortly before 21 i decided to look some more into AB because i have come back to it many times and never acted on it. only this time i stumbled really on the term littlespace which lead to the term little and i identify so so much more with those than i do with adult baby. Maybe because my little age is about 2-3 or maybe because of negative connotations but either way i had a name and a new love for it and decided to online date and met someone and for the first time in a long time i feel accepted, understood, loved, cherished, and overall i feel like i'm not hiding anymore
When it comes to littlespace and BeDeeSeM in general, I drawn the line when partners are no longer being respected. You might talk about a smack in the face before you engage in play or you might smack the sub and then ask if they liked it. I think i'd draw the line when a partner has said clearly that they are not enjoying that aspect of the play and would like if it stopped and the other refuses to stop. Like calling a safe word and someone ignoring it. And i always think its a good idea to discuss new things either beforehand if you are thinking about it before or as a follow up because it gives the sub that time to say if they liked something or not. It avoids those things. I think a sub should always feel respected and trust the dom enough to say anything they need to.