Hi, Dude!
I believe you need to read your original post in this topic again:
DaddysLittleMuffin wrote:
Daddy Doesnt like diapers
DaddysLittleMuffin wrote: ↑4 years ago
...but he definitely doesnt want me to wear diapers.
DaddysLittleMuffin wrote: ↑4 years ago
...he'll joke about me needing diapers but say it will never happen.
DaddysLittleMuffin wrote: ↑4 years ago
Should I try to push for them?
In my opinion, that sounds like you aren’t considering the need to respect your partners comfort levels and boundaries that you are clearly aware of.
Even here in your reply you come off as disrespecting boundaries when you take into account the statements above that you made about him and his choices:
DaddysLittleMuffin wrote: ↑4 years ago
he doesnt like it, once he said he didn't want it I didn't bring it up again.
DaddysLittleMuffin wrote: ↑4 years ago
I wasnt sure If I should try to make him see diapers too.
You admit then that you are actually asking if any other little has “pushed” their Caregiver into doing something the Caregiver has expressed complete disinterest in doing with the little. “Making” someone do something they genuinely don’t want to do—and have told you they don’t want to do—isn’t cool. It’s my opinion that pressuring your partner into letting you overstep their clearly defined and expressed boundaries is wrong, disrespectful, and, yes, greedy. This boundary seems very reasonable to me, and it seems selfish to want to overturn it when the boundary actually doesn’t have to effect you. Trying to “convince” your partner to remove their personal boundary for strictly your own benefit and enjoyment is not okay.
Also, perhaps you’re unaware but I can view the public, group chat room. Yesterday morning you announced to the chat room that it was your very first day wearing diapers and that you were excited that you were getting to try them out. It would seem strange to me that you claim to have an existing condition of urinary incontience enough to require adult diapers yet you are just now using them. I honestly don’t care if you do or don’t have a medical need for diapers, but I feel it’s wrong to use such a claim to force your partner into engaging in some sort of diaper scenario, fantasy, or play with you.
Lastly, again, regressing should not ever exacerbate, contribute to, or cause a medical condition. Regression (“littlespace”) is more of a mood and externalized personal expression and is not a mental or physical health condition. It isn’t an illness and doesn’t cause illness. Please see a doctor if a mood you’re experiencing and feelings you’re choosing to express are causing you to lose control of your bladder. Please see your doctor about medical conditions and any changes that you notice with them because they can point to more serious, underlying concerns that left untreated can do serious damage to your one and only body. You are young with a lot of life to live so please don’t ignore issues or worsening of conditions by self-managing without seeing a doctor first.
I understand that you were hoping for only responses that sided with making sure your desires would be fulfilled but that’s not how it works. I’ve given you my honest views, thoughts, and suggestions. While I may have lacked some softening up of words I did come in full honesty in hopes of promoting the life and happiness of your self and your relationship. I’m not being hostile and you don’t have to respond aggressively either.
I can only know what you post in the way you choose to word the postings so I understand that I don’t know all of the nitty gritty details of your private relationship. I know it seems that we’re just strangers on a message board but I’d like to think of us as long-distant friends who are just looking for some solid, honest advice. We’re just people trying to live happy lives while supporting our community friends, their relationships, and our future as a healthy group.
P.S. Hey, Friend, could you please not refer to me as “Dude” in the future? It’s a masculine word and I’m a female. I know I’m just being nitpicky but I felt like it’d do no harm to ask you to change just one word in our future exchanges. Thank you so much.