- 7 years ago
#32816
So, you really just need to be careful. These relationships are like any other in terms of pacing and being open and honest. The one catch is that you need to be more communicative and set boundaries. It sounds counter-intuitive to DDLG and BeDeeSeM, but the real kink or the real intimacy comes from surrendering yourself to someone who DESERVES it because they have EARNED your trust. This means you should not jump into a relationship just because it is DDLG.
Like any relationship, take your time. If a DD does not appreciate your experience and does not give you the time and attention you need, then like any other relationship, it may not be healthy.
I will tell you this from the opposite side. I am a DD and was dating a girl who came out as little to me. I was super excited because I was sort of closeted before. Her excitement soon became over zealous and our relationship suffered. She, as a little, was pushing me harder and faster into incorporating this into our lives than I was ready. She made demands about how often we were "playing" and I was uncomfortable. Our intimacy levels suffered and we broke up. So it happens on both sides.
The real goal is to communicate. Be open and honest. Make that a rule you have in the relationship, that you have to connect and talk regularly. That if an issue arises, then it needs to be worked out in a particular way that is best for both of you. But take your time, be honest and open. Find the person who is right for you.