- 2 years ago
I read about adult babies when i was 12 and knew it appealed to me but we somewhat creeped out by news casts and documentaries in youtube that i watched and combined with the odd name i didn't like and some backlash from my family, i abandoned it. And so i turned 17, had adult relations, Turned 18 and then 19 and entered into my first very serious relationship (like engaged and talking about marriage and kids type serious) and we had a lot of problems and i have some emotional scars left over but looking back on that, I picked a dominant male which i liked but he used his dominance for anger and not for love and really that was the root of the issue so I ended it and turned 20, and shortly before 21 i decided to look some more into abdl because i have come back to it many times and never acted on it. only this time i stumbled really on the term littlespace which lead to the term little and i identify so so much more with those than i do with adult baby. Maybe because my little age is about 2-3 or maybe because of negative connotations but either way i had a name and a new love for it and decided to online date and met someone and for the first time in a long time i feel accepted, understood, loved, cherished, and overall i feel like i'm not hiding anymore
When it comes to littlespace and bdsm in general, I drawn the line when partners are no longer being respected. You might talk about a smack in the face before you engage in play or you might smack the sub and then ask if they liked it. I think i'd draw the line when a partner has said clearly that they are not enjoying that aspect of the play and would like if it stopped and the other refuses to stop. Like calling a safe word and someone ignoring it. And i always think its a good idea to discuss new things either beforehand if you are thinking about it before or as a follow up because it gives the sub that time to say if they liked something or not. It avoids those things. I think a sub should always feel respected and trust the dom enough to say anything they need to.