- 1 year ago
As a general rule, when you are punishing someone. Take it slow, don't do the hardest punishment you can think of first.
Also respect safe words, and soft limits. If someone does misbehave it doesn't mean you ignore there limits and you use them against them.
Discuss before hand and tell your little/sub why she/he/they are going to be punished before it happens. Allow them to have input and let them tell you they accept the punishment.
ALSO, adult relations, TRYING OUT NEW TOYS, BULLYING OR PRESSURING SOMEONE INTO adult relations ISN'T PUNISHMENT. YOU AS THE CAREGIVER SHOULDN'T GET SEXUAL PLEASURE FROM PUNISHING YOUR LITTLE/SUB. Punishments aren't meant to be enjoyable for you or the person who is being punished. But if there is a general concern around being hit, ect. Respect that. There is a lot of punishments out there. Hitting isn't the only one, and although your submissive/little is being punished there own safety is important too.
NEVER HIT OR PUNISH YOUR LITTLE OUT OF RAGE. be responsible, if they've done something that does really upset you. Tell them you need some time to yourself, take a step back, calm down. Have your own alone time, time out. What have you.
Than call on them so you guys can talk about the way they need to be punished. But only do this when you are relaxed.
Also after care is important after ALL punishments. Physical or not.