- 4 years ago
#54170
hi everybody(:
so, if you’ve seen some of my other posts, my mommy and i have had a bit of trouble figuring stuff out in the past because she’s a switch. we’ve been working things out, and i’ve tried to step into a bit of a caregiver role at times when she’s little. i’ve done things like give her some simple rules for structure, watch cartoons with her, just little caregiver-y things.
however, she has diagnosed ptsd from an even that happened when she was a teenager, and recently it’s gotten a lot worse because her attacker came back into her life for a few weeks (he’s been hospitalized and we shouldn’t have trouble from him ever again). this has made her ptsd very intense for the last couple of weeks, which has turned into over a month. when her ptsd gets very bad she often stays little for very long periods of time, and is very burntout whenever she is big. i am also extremely burntout because she expects me to be big when she is little, and when i’m little we tend to fight. but i went from being almost a full time little to being almost a full time caregiver. i don’t really know how to deal with it?
we’ve had quite a few conversations, i just don’t know what to do at this point. how do i respect her burnout and not make her feel obligated to care for me, while still giving myself the little time that i really need? and how do i make it so she can be little still but i don’t have such terrible burnout?
thank you guys so, so much! you’re all great~
stay safe wash your handssssss
(additional info: we are in an ldr. she lives in canada, i live in the states. we talk and facetime as much as we can but are both pretty busy so we end up texting a lot)
so, if you’ve seen some of my other posts, my mommy and i have had a bit of trouble figuring stuff out in the past because she’s a switch. we’ve been working things out, and i’ve tried to step into a bit of a caregiver role at times when she’s little. i’ve done things like give her some simple rules for structure, watch cartoons with her, just little caregiver-y things.
however, she has diagnosed ptsd from an even that happened when she was a teenager, and recently it’s gotten a lot worse because her attacker came back into her life for a few weeks (he’s been hospitalized and we shouldn’t have trouble from him ever again). this has made her ptsd very intense for the last couple of weeks, which has turned into over a month. when her ptsd gets very bad she often stays little for very long periods of time, and is very burntout whenever she is big. i am also extremely burntout because she expects me to be big when she is little, and when i’m little we tend to fight. but i went from being almost a full time little to being almost a full time caregiver. i don’t really know how to deal with it?
we’ve had quite a few conversations, i just don’t know what to do at this point. how do i respect her burnout and not make her feel obligated to care for me, while still giving myself the little time that i really need? and how do i make it so she can be little still but i don’t have such terrible burnout?
thank you guys so, so much! you’re all great~
stay safe wash your handssssss
(additional info: we are in an ldr. she lives in canada, i live in the states. we talk and facetime as much as we can but are both pretty busy so we end up texting a lot)
smol sad sleepy stressed sassy