- 4 years ago
#53782
So, I have a bit of an issue. Not huge, but still there. I feel really awkward when my boyfriend tries to be my caregiver. Even with simple things, like just calling me kitten or princess, it feels so weird coming out of his mouth. Like I have a physical reaction to it, and not a good one. It's just plain weird. I love him to bits, and I really want him to be the caregiver I want, but every time he tries it kinda throws me out if little space cause it's so weird to me.
Now, we are new to this, we've dated for almost 7 years without this dynamic in place. So, it's possible that I'm just not used to it. This is all new territory for us, and trying to shift from constantly thinking like a big person to allowing myself to feel little is a hard transition, it still feels like I should be ashamed or something, like I'm doing something wrong. So we've got that working against us. Also, we don't live together at the moment, and probably won't be for a while. We get to spend time together about once every other week, and I have no other opportunities to be little except when I'm with him. I feel like it's kinda this perfect storm of things working against us at the moment.
Have others gone through a weird transition phase with this dynamic, or did you just fall into it perfectly? If love to hear how others handle their relationships! Also if you have nothing to offer but encouraging words, that helps too. I can use all you have.
Now, we are new to this, we've dated for almost 7 years without this dynamic in place. So, it's possible that I'm just not used to it. This is all new territory for us, and trying to shift from constantly thinking like a big person to allowing myself to feel little is a hard transition, it still feels like I should be ashamed or something, like I'm doing something wrong. So we've got that working against us. Also, we don't live together at the moment, and probably won't be for a while. We get to spend time together about once every other week, and I have no other opportunities to be little except when I'm with him. I feel like it's kinda this perfect storm of things working against us at the moment.
Have others gone through a weird transition phase with this dynamic, or did you just fall into it perfectly? If love to hear how others handle their relationships! Also if you have nothing to offer but encouraging words, that helps too. I can use all you have.