- 4 years ago
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i was wondering if any other littles have a really hard time getting into their little/headspace? and if so how do you go into your littlespace and what helps you the most
Anyone else have trouble getting into character for the audition? That's not what I meant though!
Right?
So, let's try again...
Anyone else have trouble relaxing enough (like, letting your guard down) to allow their regression to externalize more obviously so that they can sort-of get lost in those comfortable, self-affirming feelings for awhile? That's what you meant, right?
Please do remember that being a little is a personality trait and not an act that you're putting on. You aren't a character in a play. You aren't playing a part in a scene. You are just you.
Regressive episodes are just more elaborate, external expressions of what is always present in the little. When you think of it like that then you can feel more validation for just being yourself, and it may help you to embrace the very small little things you do that are scattered throughout your everyday life. Appreciating your personality trait as something that is always present, regardless of the amount of expression, is important to understanding and loving yourself.
While you may absolutely be reducing and suppressing more deeper regressive episodes right now you are still yourself. Managing, and at times outright suppressing, your regression is something you've learned throughout your biological maturity and it has been absolutely necessary to your functional life, fitting in with peers, completing important tasks, and finding happiness in general expectations that have been placed on you as you've grown. It’s a necessary skill to have as a little. You learned to do this by watching others and mimicking what was acceptable and expected of you, what your parents pressured you to do in effort to "grow up", and from influence from peers you biologically matured with in social settings like school. A little is always a little though, and being a little means you are naturally regressive in some way(s).
Embrace what you can find about your daily interactions that you do more "little like" than other, non-regressive adults. Being a little is a personality--a core part of who you are as a person--and not something you "experience". A lot of times self-acceptance and personal understanding can lead to major stress reduction and the capability to externalize more of your thoughts and feelings since you will feel more calm and safe about who you are as an atypical adult. Sometimes you just need to relax and accept yourself so that you can recognize that you don't need to heavily suppress your regression right now, whenever right now is for you.
Remember that regression does not transform you into being a different person, it is not disassociative identity disorder or multiple personality disorder, and is a part of a person's whole being--not a separate set of knowledge or experiences that is turned on and off like a light switch. A little may feel like a child but there is no magical transformation, even mentally, that erases the memories, knowledge, and experiences they've gathered into adulthood. So, don't put yourself into expectations of becoming and think of this more as just expressing parts of yourself that you've been managing to keep reduced so that you socially fit in with other adults.
While you may want to get lost in your own simplistic thoughts, it's okay if you don't and it doesn't mean you don't have these more simple thoughts, actions, or feelings throughout every single day. Work on educating yourself about yourself and I really feel like you will just generally feel much more happier with what regressive traits you have sprinkled throughout your every day life.You can also contact me at littlespaceonline @ gmail.com if you can't reach me here!
Sweetbottoms wrote: ↑4 years ago I find this thread very interesting. But I have a question about regression. I've noticed the word regression has been used in a negative unhealthy way. The only example I have is my daughter's therapist saying that if we don't keep up with therapy she will regress. I don't know if regression is a negative or positive thing. but according to what you're saying it's fine it's a positive thing.
Sweetbottoms wrote:I've noticed the word regression has been used in a negative unhealthy way. The only example I have is my daughter's therapist saying that if we don't keep up with therapy she will regress. I don't know if regression is a negative or positive thing. but according to what you're saying it's fine it's a positive thing.Regression is used in several context. We will briefly outline those relevant to this post, and include one occasionally used within the community:
Mark Wolraich, MD wrote:At times, a child may even regress in her learning—that is, lose skills she has recently acquired or even take a few steps back in her learning process.As you can see, regression in this context implies temporary lack of mental, emotional progression, jumping from a current stage into a previously lived stage of development. You want a child to progress, therefore regression in this context is a negative sign, and should definitely be addressed to get the child back on a healthy development track.
Regression sometimes signals an infection or other disorder that requires medical treatment. If medical causes have been ruled out, however, your child is probably simply responding in the only way she knows how to a recent change in her environment or some other source of stress in her life.
Common causes of regression in young children include:Wolraich, M., MD, FAAP, 2003. Retrieved 2019-10-27 from https://www.healthychildren.org/English ... ssion.aspx
- Change in the child-care routine—for example, a new sitter, or starting a child-care or preschool program
- The mother’s pregnancy or the birth of a new sibling
- A major illness on the part of the child or a family member
- A recent death
- Marital conflict or parents’ divorce
- An upcoming or recent move to a new house
Littlespaceonline.com wrote:Littlespace [or regression] is a mindset in which an adult relaxes into a state of carefree, responsibility-free safety while expressing their atypical inner-self (personality) that differs from their biological peers.Regression therapy
Littlespaceonline.com. Retrieved 2019-10-27 from What is Littlespace?
I think what I'm asking about this can your inner child be a little? We believe that most people see "inner child" as referring to a more youthful part of themselves. So, for a Little, with a Little personality, that inner child is embedded in their core, and is who they are. We suppose "inner child" could be used to explain to others how you feel. However, being a Little is who you are, and not a separate thing. It is more than just a part of you. As long as you don't refer being a Little as something different than who you are, then we suppose the question rings true.
I want to buy some onesies to wear around the house but I don't want anyone knowing about my little. If done discreetly, onesies are just another piece of clothing. Say you wear a pair of shorts over a onesie, and nobody would think of it being something more than a tucked-in shirt. Even leotards (t-shirts with snap-crotch) are becoming more popular and sold in stores. Of course, you should treat these garments as if they were underwear, and not be ready to prance around in them freely around, unless done in private or in an acceptable environment (such as an AB convention).
People generally are unaware of the community and what Littles are, so a lot of things fly under the radar.
I feel like I have to keep it a secret cuz I'm afraid people will judge me harshly and more abused juice on the way. Being a Little shouldn't be about validation. It's about knowing who you are and doing the things that cater to who you feel you are inside. There is comfort in validation, of course, but at the same time people don't really need to know exactly what you are in order to accept who you are. The person that you are to others should align with the person you feel you are. Just be yourself, and as long as you are aware of your surroundings and what is socially acceptable in the moment, you should be fine.
Sometimes I'll talk a certain way like I'm five. I have a five-year-old so I can get away with it so part of my little can show without people knowing in some parts of my life We would strongly advise you to not do this in front of your child though. Sure, it may seem silly and goofy to them or the people around you, but, for one, but it can hinder your child's own health and development. Your child still is learning about life, about the world around them. As their parent, they draw most of their social knowledge from you. It can be confusing to see an adult acting like a child in front of them, to them.
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