- 4 years ago
#53520
H-Hello! i was curious, why is it harder for a little thats a boy to f ind someone.... i can never find anyone and its looked down on allot from what ive seen and it makes me sad :C
I need PARTNER that can reciprocate with me to build to a healthy partnership where are BOTH cared for adequately. That's a very healthy thing to expect out of a relationship. We know it exists even in CG/L because we have been in a relationship with Mommy for 3 years, and we do very well in listening to each other's wants and needs and addressing issues together. We try to make each other happy as much as we can. Being caring is not an exclusive trait in a Caregiver.
I've found that most men put impossible demands and expectations for care on me. That's a purely sexist comment.
We can see this being applicable to any gender. Generally, we would say that people (gender irrelevant) misunderstand what the community is about, enough for most to believe that all Littles should just take take take, be excessively clingy and demanding, disregard their caregiver as also just being a human, be overly emotionally demanding and mentally dependent where sometimes it is neglectful or even cruel to the caregiver. The assumption that children are absolutely and completely incapable to give love, appreciation, respect, and some form of care in return is so wrong but something that exists in our community.
Unfortunately, we're not at a point yet where CG/L relationships are viewed as analogous to regular "vanilla" relationships, so that idea isn't held or spread enough. Unfortunately, a lot (not all but a lot) of people (regardless of gender) are thinking that the CG/L partnership is just pure fantasy where someone is a selfless superhuman who needs absolutely nothing but the existence of the other and the other is someone who is just a greedy, inept being who is only capable of self fulfillment. We have to continue working on this. It isn't the issue of one gender not understanding how happy relationships work.
Just, it's a community issue, and not tied or related to a single gender.