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#51274
In the biological world, parents often hire babysitters to tend to their children when they are away from home for short periods of time. The exchange for the babysitter for tending to the children who are not theirs is obviously through financial payment.
Do you think that someone in the community who is willing to temporarily take care of a little similarly to that of a biological babysitter (so, entirely nonsexual and within certain barriers/boundaries that clearly acknowledge they are not your Daddy/Mommy/permanent or serious Caregiver; short-term periods of only a few hours a week) should be paid too? If not, then what do you think they would genuinely gain from the exchange to justify temporarily caring for the little? If so, do you think the pay-rate should be similar to that of a biological babysitter? Do you think someone taking on the label of "littlesitter" is actually a member of the immediate community or just a supporter of the community?

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#51288
There are many situations in which adults pay for adult relations with someone/ multiple people.

For example, protistutes charge or sexual pleasure, and Some Japanese dating services charge for having a date, going out to a movie or just talking and spending time with people.

So I think it’s completely ok to pay/charge for a CGL dynamic, however this should not be substituted for a genuine relationship, just as the other services shouldn’t be. One would get far more fulfillment engaging with others who are doing it for fulfillment themselves, and not just money. I’m not judging anyone who does charge/pay for these things, that’s all fine, but if you want to have a deeper connection, money shouldn’t be needed.

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#51289
I think it's an interesting concept for sure. I would love to have a Littlesitter for the days that my Daddy is too busy for whatever reason (he works full-time, and I am a stay-at-home mommy to our 3-month-old daughter). It would be interesting. I mean, people pay for escorts and stuff like that (let's not think about it in the sexy way. XD)and people pay for babysitters for their actual children, so why can't Littles or their Doms pay for a babysitter? And it gives a Dom or a middle the chance to do their role in almost a not as intense relationship as a little and a daddy or mommy.

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#51619
If I had enough moneys I would love to pay a sitter once in a while, personally. There are other pseudo-roles/relationships as well. In theory they are great. I think if the person isn't paid then it absolutely needs to be a very trusted best friend, who Won't take advantage and who can support you exploring and sharing safely and comfortably. I think if the person isn't getting paid and they don't know you very well, there really isn't much they could gain. Except maybe a relationship or something sexual. I think that kind of defeats the purpose of a sitter, myself.
My experience in trying to find a sitter has not been great so far.

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#51622
Its a professional experience that should be paid fair amount but ONLY if they are worth the cost. My friend had gotten a pro sitter few times and she brought many items 4 him. Snacks, diapers, books, gave him a bath. He saw her a few more times after that and enjoyed it very much.

Some are just in it for money and it shows in poor acts and sour faces of judging. I never paid 4 a pro sub session but often thought about it and would if it was a fully equipped ABDL nursery.

I used to be in the pro kink profession ( not as a pro sitter or anything) so i know how much effort is put in by sincere lifestyle players who turned pro.

Many times they priced fair and truly enjoyed it. But being constantly harrassed by potential "clients" left them feeling drained n annoyed. Because to be told a "real" babysitter is only $12 an hour is insulting.

A true pro ABDL babysitter deals with diaper changing an adult with mature genitals, sexual arousal ( even tho its not sexual joy its just human nature) and many other things to consider when being a professional ABDL caregiver.

Not to sound cruel but its a luxury to pay for a professional experience and it should be treated as such or just wait and find you're own caregiver in your life.

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#51693
Honestly, I think a sitter for a little is a smart idea. If your littles are important enough that you make sure they have the attention and care from you on a regular basis, they should be important enough that if they need extended time as a little, and you can’t be there, the sitter helps.

I for one am a Mommy, but I’m also a sitter. I’m not sexual, I set up fun activities and I plan outings for my littles and my charges. All fun or educational things and I let them be themselves. My Babygirl, often tells me so should just open my own daycare for Littles and I have been thinking a lot of it lately. But I would also expect to be paid for my time and effort for caring for my charges, just as I do when I babysit the local kids for parents.

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