[daddysprettypumpkin]

I broke up with my boyfriend on Thursday. He was always very nice to me and tried very hard to make me happy, that wasn't the problem at all. I just really really wanted him to be my Daddy. What hurt the most is that he said he had been a daddy before. So when he never paid attention to the rules we set and never played a role in my little space, it hurt me so so bad. I just always felt that "I'm just not a good enough girl. He was that girls daddy because she was better and i'm just not good enough to be somebody's little", which I KNOW is an extreme way of thinking but gosh I can't think about it any other way. I feel ashamed for needing this dynamic.
Anyway, I've been trying to get into littlespace this last month and a half or so and I literally can't... I'll start to feel it and then get all these thoughts that I'm a bad person and that I'll never find anyone to take care of me and i just don't know what to do. My hair has started to shed a lot. I think it's because i' so stressed and can't even get into littlespace to let it out. I know it'll pass but how do i get it to go away sooner? I can barely function, it feels like. Hygiene has taken a dive and i've started cutting and popping pills again.. And i cant see my therapist for 2 more weeks.. AAaaaa please give e some advice

[HisLittleRopebunny]

Hey

I’m so sorry to hear that you have been dealing with this... I hope you find strength in yourself soon.

My advice isn’t what you really want to hear. As you are probably aware, there is no way of just suddenly making depression and bad thoughts go away completely in an instant... but I can suggest a few things that can make it easier.

1. Let yourself rest and be kind to yourself. Breakups are horrible to deal with and it will take time to feel completely over it. It is not your fault for needing a relationship dynamic that he couldn’t fulfil, and it isn’t his fault either. But that doesn’t mean that it isn’t going to hurt you...I’m sorry

2. Practice postive self talk. I struggle with this a lot, I often feel horrible thoughts towards myself and think I’m not good enough, but it’s important to try and counteract those thoughts with positive ones. If you notice bad thoughts emerging try and say out loud something positive about yourself, even if you don’t fully believe it at first. You could also do gratitude journals and stuff like that too.

3. Take care of your hygiene if you can. Heck, if the only thing you can do each day is get up and wash your face or something then that’s better than nothing. I myself get into bouts of depression where I literally just stay in my bed for days.. taking care of your personal needs are important, eat, drink water, exercise, spend some time in nature and socialise with friends or family if you can. I know it’s hard so take it slow.. and don’t beat yourself up if you fail at doing these things, you are only human.

4. In terms of littlespace, it may take time to get over the hump.. but doing things like colouring and watching kids shows.. without trying to push yourself to feel little.. may help.

5. In terms of self harm, I know you can’t see your therapist for a couple weeks but if you feel scared or in danger, there are multiple places to get help online or help calls. Lifeline is trying out a free texting service, I have used it myself a couple times and the people I texted were helpful, and it’s easier than talking on the phone or in person. Also you can try holding ice, and rubber bands, and drawing on yourself etc but I don’t know what works for you personally.

I’m sorry I couldn’t give much more help, only some tips that have helped me in my experience.
I hope you stay safe and feel better soon <3

Best Wishes,
Lena

[littleTyler]

So... I really relate to this post. So I'm going to try and help, in the hope that maybe my experiences will help you or others.

Feeling guilty about this isn't new, and I know saying you shouldn't sounds a lot easier than it is. But I spent a large portion of my life trying not to be what I am, a little. And I still really struggle with the guilt, and have a hard time really getting into little space sometimes because of it. I even started shedding a lot of hair too, and it started getting noticeably thinner at the top. (thankfully that stopped)

We're littles, that comes with some challenges, but everyone in this world has their challenges, their strengths and weaknesses. And I believe being littles make us especially sweet and adorable, if a little needy. :p But that's part of our charm.

Relationships don't always work out. It might not even be you, your boyfriend might have some things he needs to figure out. Finding the right person for you isn't necessarily easy or straightforward for anyone, whether your vanilla, or an ageplayer, or whatever else you are, or are into. But you won't find the right person if you're afraid to be yourself.

So, maybe this won't work for you, but whenever I feel that guilt creeping in. I remind myself who I am, that I'm a little. That in this big scary, sometimes mean world, I'm a little piece of innocence and sweetness. And I can't be anything other than what I am, so I might as well be good at it. And there is someone out there who'll love you just the way you are. I guarantee it.

Anyway, I hope that helped, even a little. I know having someone to rant to can really help me when I'm not in a good place. So feel free to rant to me if you want, I might not have a way to fix things, but I can listen anyway. Sometimes saying the things that are worrying us to someone else, can be very freeing. Or make another post, or talk to someone else. The important part is not to keep it all in. (I think anyway)

So I hope your well. And I hope you stay safe. And remember, as a little, we're extra sweet adorable gifts to this world. So keep being awesome!