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So I have *sort of* been in the community for awhile as in I have known about it and wanted to be apart of it and have known I am a little for some time. But I have never been able to find someone in my dating life who happens to be a caregiver
So recently I have been kind of seeing this guy, though on a much more casual fling basis than anything else, and we got into the subject of physically intimate things and I ended up telling about my desire/curiosity about this whole world. He seemed into it but the subject kind of died off and we talked about other stuffs
ANYWAY so today we were kind of messing around and just goofing off and he made a comment about if I didnt stop "being a brat" he would "punish me" and then joked and said I would probably like that too much and that I would "take it like a good girl". And while this is all fine and well i have a couple of reservations.
1) we aren't really dating and I dont want the first time I try this to be with some casual fling. 2) he seems to think it is just a joke and just like bedroom talk which is NOT what it is to me and 3)it feels like he's just doing it because I mentioned it the other day and that's not what I want.
So I guess my question would be what do I do about all of this?! Its a lot to handle and I'm just getting over whelmed and I dont know what to do! Any advice would be good.
Like should I sit him down and just figure EVERYTHING out or just let it go and continue as things are or what?
Thanks!