- 4 years ago
#53186
Ok so, I'm new here, and I'm here because I want to comfort and support my little the best that I can, but our CG/LB relationship is kind of a secret between us, so I needed a place I can post while being sorta anon.
A little bit of background-
I'm a cis female. I'm 21 and my little is 25. I've always been really nurturing and motherly, not exactly dominant though, if that's possible or makes any sense? When I was in high school there was a guy I was involved with whom I absolutely adored. I always just naturally had urges to spoil him, be gentle, care for, and protect him. He wasn't into this one bit, he was cold, detached and ended up just using me and taking advantage my empathy over and over again. I've completely moved on from this relationship and I haven't talked to this person in years, however, it was this relationship that made me kind of realize what sort of thing I wanted (though he definitely wasn't the right person I was looking for).
I ended up finding the right person though. Two years ago I met a guy on a popular social media platform through a irl friend that knew him. Almost right away I fell head over heels for him and he fell in love with me. In the beginning, he was very shy about a lot of things. He was very hesitant about telling me that he was disabled and needs crutches to walk, but I assured him that this didn't bother me at all. He then told me before we could date, he had a secret to tell me, and he didn't tell it to a lot of people. I had to very patient trying to get this secret out of him and after lots of effort and gentle reassurance, he told me he had mommy issues. This was a really broad statement, but after asking him to elaborate, we found that age regression might be a more appropriate term. I told him that not only was I ok with this, but I liked it.
I and my little are in a monogamous long distance relationship, but I see him about every seven months or so for around two weeks at a time. I want to add that he isn't little all the time, only occasionally. He has told me that he does not have any emotional trauma. Regressing is also something he chooses to do and is able to control. For him, it can be either physically intimate or non-physically intimate, it's usually 50/50. Sometimes he regresses a lot, sometimes he goes months without doing it.
I know when he is in littlespace when I am messaging him by the way he types. He has a favorite nickname to be called when he's in his space, and usually sheepishly asks or hints that he wants to be called that to let me know that he's regressed. In person, I know just by how he starts talking. His voice gets really soft and cute like a little baby, his eyes get really wide, and it honestly just makes my heart melt, especially as he's shorter than me, tiny and adorable.. He loves to call me mommy, loves when I breastfeed him, and a lot of the time it is a physically intimate kink and he asks for intimacy often when he's in littlespace (but he doesn't seem like me to be rough or "punish" him).
The problem I'm having with my little is that, after two whole years of this being such a huge aspect of our relationship, he is still very shy and bashful about his kink. He tells me that he often feels bad or guilty about it, and no matter how much I try to comfort him and make him feel safe, it doesn't seem to work. I've told him his family and our friends will never find out, I've told him his kink is common, I've explained to him that I enjoy it as much as he does, I've told him that there's nothing to be ashamed of, but he still feels uncomfortable.
I've really been worrying I haven't been a good Mommy but he always tells me that I'm not doing anything wrong and the issue isn't me, but it's him. He tells me he doesn't want a different CG and that I'm perfect, but he thinks his kink is weird and doesn't want to scare me away. I always tell him there's nothing to worry about, and that I enjoy being his mommy and that he can trust me. We've been discussing closing the distance within the next year or so and eventually even getting married, but he's still scared to be himself around me and it really worries me.
We have an agreement that he will be my only little and I will be his only caregiver as long as we are together. I've upheld my end of the agreement and after meeting him in person I can say, without a doubt, he's being loyal and sticking to our deal. I know this isn't what all CG/LB relationships are like but this how ours is.
I know him really well and I know being a little is something that he really, really enjoys, and because I care about my baby I want him to be happy and feel free to be himself, especially in our own, private relationship. It's like pulling teeth to get him to communicate with me about his kink. Sometimes, he gets too embarrassed to even call me mommy even though he loves to do it. For his own comfort, we don't use things like bedtime stories, sippy cups, or diapers though I would not be surprised if these are all things he secretly wishes he had for when he regresses. He does have a few small teddies I've bought him, and while I know he likes them, he usually feels bad for snuggling them, especially if I'm around to see.
I'm an intense empath, so when I'm trying to get into mommyspace it can be difficult when I sense he wants me to be his mommy really bad, but also feels ashamed and embarrassed at the same time. When I sense he feels guilty, I myself begin to feel uncomfortable or like I'm doing something dirty or wrong. I don't know if it's possible for me to be any more gentle, patient, and caring than what I've been with him. I'm not mad, I just don't know what else I can do to help him feel alright.
I'm looking for: <3
- Advice on how I can comfort my little and help him feel less embarrassed
- How to get into mommyspace when my little is nervous
- Videos or articles that may help me
- Similar experiences, whether you might be able to relate to me or my little.
A little bit of background-
I'm a cis female. I'm 21 and my little is 25. I've always been really nurturing and motherly, not exactly dominant though, if that's possible or makes any sense? When I was in high school there was a guy I was involved with whom I absolutely adored. I always just naturally had urges to spoil him, be gentle, care for, and protect him. He wasn't into this one bit, he was cold, detached and ended up just using me and taking advantage my empathy over and over again. I've completely moved on from this relationship and I haven't talked to this person in years, however, it was this relationship that made me kind of realize what sort of thing I wanted (though he definitely wasn't the right person I was looking for).
I ended up finding the right person though. Two years ago I met a guy on a popular social media platform through a irl friend that knew him. Almost right away I fell head over heels for him and he fell in love with me. In the beginning, he was very shy about a lot of things. He was very hesitant about telling me that he was disabled and needs crutches to walk, but I assured him that this didn't bother me at all. He then told me before we could date, he had a secret to tell me, and he didn't tell it to a lot of people. I had to very patient trying to get this secret out of him and after lots of effort and gentle reassurance, he told me he had mommy issues. This was a really broad statement, but after asking him to elaborate, we found that age regression might be a more appropriate term. I told him that not only was I ok with this, but I liked it.
I and my little are in a monogamous long distance relationship, but I see him about every seven months or so for around two weeks at a time. I want to add that he isn't little all the time, only occasionally. He has told me that he does not have any emotional trauma. Regressing is also something he chooses to do and is able to control. For him, it can be either physically intimate or non-physically intimate, it's usually 50/50. Sometimes he regresses a lot, sometimes he goes months without doing it.
I know when he is in littlespace when I am messaging him by the way he types. He has a favorite nickname to be called when he's in his space, and usually sheepishly asks or hints that he wants to be called that to let me know that he's regressed. In person, I know just by how he starts talking. His voice gets really soft and cute like a little baby, his eyes get really wide, and it honestly just makes my heart melt, especially as he's shorter than me, tiny and adorable.. He loves to call me mommy, loves when I breastfeed him, and a lot of the time it is a physically intimate kink and he asks for intimacy often when he's in littlespace (but he doesn't seem like me to be rough or "punish" him).
The problem I'm having with my little is that, after two whole years of this being such a huge aspect of our relationship, he is still very shy and bashful about his kink. He tells me that he often feels bad or guilty about it, and no matter how much I try to comfort him and make him feel safe, it doesn't seem to work. I've told him his family and our friends will never find out, I've told him his kink is common, I've explained to him that I enjoy it as much as he does, I've told him that there's nothing to be ashamed of, but he still feels uncomfortable.
I've really been worrying I haven't been a good Mommy but he always tells me that I'm not doing anything wrong and the issue isn't me, but it's him. He tells me he doesn't want a different CG and that I'm perfect, but he thinks his kink is weird and doesn't want to scare me away. I always tell him there's nothing to worry about, and that I enjoy being his mommy and that he can trust me. We've been discussing closing the distance within the next year or so and eventually even getting married, but he's still scared to be himself around me and it really worries me.
We have an agreement that he will be my only little and I will be his only caregiver as long as we are together. I've upheld my end of the agreement and after meeting him in person I can say, without a doubt, he's being loyal and sticking to our deal. I know this isn't what all CG/LB relationships are like but this how ours is.
I know him really well and I know being a little is something that he really, really enjoys, and because I care about my baby I want him to be happy and feel free to be himself, especially in our own, private relationship. It's like pulling teeth to get him to communicate with me about his kink. Sometimes, he gets too embarrassed to even call me mommy even though he loves to do it. For his own comfort, we don't use things like bedtime stories, sippy cups, or diapers though I would not be surprised if these are all things he secretly wishes he had for when he regresses. He does have a few small teddies I've bought him, and while I know he likes them, he usually feels bad for snuggling them, especially if I'm around to see.
I'm an intense empath, so when I'm trying to get into mommyspace it can be difficult when I sense he wants me to be his mommy really bad, but also feels ashamed and embarrassed at the same time. When I sense he feels guilty, I myself begin to feel uncomfortable or like I'm doing something dirty or wrong. I don't know if it's possible for me to be any more gentle, patient, and caring than what I've been with him. I'm not mad, I just don't know what else I can do to help him feel alright.
I'm looking for: <3
- Advice on how I can comfort my little and help him feel less embarrassed
- How to get into mommyspace when my little is nervous
- Videos or articles that may help me
- Similar experiences, whether you might be able to relate to me or my little.