- 2 years ago
So here's what I learned in my experience of dating and otherwise.
If you have an open heart, people will use the poop out of you and overall take advantage of you, it's hard to rely on someone or trust someone after they've hurt you. However at the same time, everyone is different. If you have standards for who you consider to be your friend or a friend then the people who don't treat you like that or act like that in general you won't have to worry about being their friend and potentially getting close because they won't be worthwhile enough to actually continue the bond with. And as far as deeper relationships go, My best advice is to build a very good foundation first, you know what you want and chances are the little you're seeking does as well. Don't rush into things, don't let that infatuation take root. Let it make you have hope for things but don't be blind to things that might pass you by or hurt you.
Trust is a huge factor in a bond, and an open talking policy is something I hold in my relationship, because it helps us communicate and talk about things more fluently.
When there is doubt then you have problems and jealousy and the works. but if you trust each-other you don't worry about miscommunication or doubt or any of the bad stuff because you might get to the point where you trust each other as to find out whats going on first before you let your emotions take over.
Currently I'm someone who is extremely open-minded and protective and caring of my friends and CG.
We have a great bond and I love making friends. however I put up little barriers in accordance to how close they are to me or how much I trust them, strangers get the benefit of the doubt until I get a full perspective on their personality, then if I think they'e a kind person they get a little closer. And if they aren't a good person then I just disregard them as a whole and find someone who's better off for me to be friends with. And overall it's really all how about you approach the situation.
You can be in a poopy situation and still make things work out or be optimistic enough (even if you fake it) to where it doesn't bother you as much. And if you do choose to be negative.. you might end up making things worse.. Dont let your past define your present which is why I say dont hold things against people you don't know yet. Learn to trust and learn to love, but also make sure you take care of yourself and hold standards "Would I date this person if they were like this or that, would a little who needs this or that or who is like this or that work out in a bond with me" As yourself those kinda questions and just be productive in your search and you should turn up ok. Just balance emotional decisions and make sure when you do logical decisions you're not cold.