Is it hard to tell a little "no" when you're their caregiver?

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Re: Is it hard to tell a little "no" when you're their caregiver?

by Deleted User 50425 » 1 week ago
I think that in any dynamic, it's not healthy to be a doormat and be an open "yes" - particularly more so in a caregiver/daddy/mommy role. While certainly the dynamic is unique to every pairing, I think that the structure the caregiver provides is an important aspect for the little. that being said i'm definitely guilty of spoiling my sweetie but I've come to realize that structure and saying "no" with an explanation and perhaps providing an opportunity for it to become a "yes" (chores, goals reached for, etc.) can be incredibly rewarding for both the cg and little.

Re: Is it hard to tell a little "no" when you're their caregiver?

by Caregiver64 » 4 weeks ago
Whether the relationship is strictly online or for real, I'd have to say it would depend on the situation at hand. If I need to turn her down because of a safety or health issue, then...no. As someone above mentioned, I'll also include an explanation for my decision. On other things that fall in the "grey areas" of importance (i.e. a small snack before a meal, or an extended bed time), I'll try to be a bit more flexible.

Re: Is it hard to tell a little "no" when you're their caregiver?

by Hunny246 » 1 month ago
Yes and no. When my little boy wants to do something and I tell him no he does it anyways. Hehe I love it thou because I’m a brat tamer.

Re: Is it hard to tell a little "no" when you're their caregiver?

by Broksby » 1 month ago
I find it can be hard, but it depends on the situation too. There are some things that I can say no to because its easily in their best interest. Other times, it's harder because I have no valid reason to say no.

Re: Is it hard to tell a little "no" when you're their caregiver?

by Darkshadow » 1 month ago
I am not a strict Daddy so yes I probably give in way to much. I can't help it. I just want make her happy

Re: Is it hard to tell a little "no" when you're their caregiver?

by Deleted User 49661 » 1 month ago
I think it's a good thing to say no if the situation comes to where you feel that you need to say it or how else would they learn

Re: Is it hard to tell a little "no" when you're their caregiver?

by KymperCuddles » 1 month ago
I need a momma acause a lot of times I can't tell myself "no" even tho I know bettew. Iss like I need help building my willpowew muskles.

I also agwee with Always, if I weally don't undewstand why something is the way it is or a wule is there or am being told "no," then that'll just make me want to bweak that wule even more to try to undewstand what's wwong wiph it. If I know why, I might not be happy, but I'll "get it" and it helps me stop.

Re: Is it hard to tell a little "no" when you're their caregiver?

by Deleted User 49651 » 1 month ago
I found it to be beneficial to include an explanation as to why I said "no". There may still have been a few occasions tears but she came to understand that there would be times when she couldn't have what she wanted because it wouldn't have been in her best interest .

Is it hard to tell a little "no" when you're their caregiver?

by NewQuestions » 2 months ago
Some regressors think they want to have everything done to, with, and for them and have a caregiver who never tells them no. It can be healthy to say no sometimes as a caregiver who is guiding their little. Do you feel like it's hard for you to tell your little no sometimes? When?

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